Nonetheless, you can all make fun of me for reading Robin McGraw's book "Inside My Heart." It's good and you can all eat crow when you read it for yourself. She talks about choosing to live life with passion and purpose.
I don't know anything that can make someone more mentally stressed than feeling trapped. Like you have absolutely no control - which ultimately we don't, but hear me out. So, we feel like we can't do anything about our situation but sulk, so we throw up our hands and proceed to executing the pout.
Though the book is definitely geared toward women, I think anyone can benefit from the following excerpt.
If you're a woman who is more comfortable reacting to life than acting upon it, I'm here to tell you that you get what you ask for and that if you don't ask, you're going to end up settling for less than you want (and deserve). It's just the way life is: each of us is born into a set of circumstances - a family drama - you might say - and assigned a role. We are expected to play this role not because our parents have it in for us, or our sisters and brothers are luckier, or because we wee born under an unfortunate alignment of the planets. We're expected to play that role because the people whose tribe we're born into - our family - are already living a certain way, and figure we'll live that way, too. And we often do. But the point is, we don't have to.
You can change your family tree. You can change the effect of the past by being the future you want for you and your family. Is it easy to change the course that history is on? No. But it can be done. You can choose to be happy with what life has given you and to reject the parts of your past that cause you pain. You don't have to let the pain of your past seep through generations and poison your children's children's children. You can live your life with peace and joy - but if you don't pursue it - if you don't ASK for it. You'll be left in the dark, perfecting your pout.