Having a new baby and an older baby has definitely made it more difficult for Matt and I to have time together. We have to consciously make an effort now to be affectionate and have good conversation. I'm surprised that one little 10 pound baby can do that!
We're totally loving our family. I couldn't feel happier or more blessed, but let's face it folks - whether we mean it to or not, our marriage often takes a back burner to the kiddos. I am a firm believer that a happy marriage produces happy children. Therefore, you can't feel guilty about focusing more on your husband or wife.
That said - how many times - when we do get a minute alone with our spouse, do we talk about the kids the entire time? We do - and we love it. We enjoy our children; watching them grow, spending time with them, talking about the cute things they do, planning activities and discussing discipline strategies. But, I don't want "us" to get lost in that.
I saw this silly article in a Parents magazine (Feb. 2011 issue) titled "Date Night - A Cheat Sheet." It's basically a list of conversation starters when you and your love have time together.
It gives a disclaimer at the beginning (which you're all gonna think when you read this anyway) that it's kind of sad to need talking pointers when you're out with your spouse - but it's fun. Hopefully one of the questions spurs on a delightful conversation preventing you from finishing the list.
PS: I'm not advocating drinking (unless it's pop) :), I just copied this out of the magazine.